Reflections on Self-Growth & Relationships
I’M STEFANIE CHOW. WELCOME TO THE INNER-WORKINGS OF MY MIND. DEPENDING ON WHO YOU ASK, I’M AN EVENT PROFESSIONAL, POLE DANCER, DOG MOM, TOASTMASTER, YELP ELITE, OR ANY OTHER ONE OF MY DIVERSE IDENTITIES. BUT ABOVE ALL ELSE, I STRIVE TO BE THE MOST HONEST & AUTHENTIC VERSION OF MYSELF. THIS IS MY PERSONAL BLOG. I HOPE YOU FIND WHATEVER IT IS YOU’RE LOOKING FOR.
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What’s a Friend to Me?
I had no idea how much my life was going to change when I got the phone call about Vasil.
Inside the Mind of a Serial Relationship Killer
I feel sick to my stomach because I did it again. I’m leaning over a dirty motel room sink, vigorously
How I Navigate Having a Partner with ADHD
When I met my anchor partner, I didn’t know anything about ADHD.After decades of developing his identity and habits, he
The Startup of You
Re-entering the world of dating after divorce felt like launching my own startup, except that startup was me. For months,
My Brain on ENM: Lessons Learned From Non-Monogamy
In just one year of this new identity, I’ve become super intimate with my brain. I can’t fathom how I
Remembering the Power of Play
While it sucked to be isolated with COVID for 10 days, I was grateful for the huge lesson I learned
Goddammit, I’m Just Like My Parents
What if my parents had raised me more traditionally and reinforced this Asian elitism? How would it affect the way
Rising to the Occasion: The Peter Principle in Relationships
People become paralyzed when context switching all the time, much like a balloon getting stuck in a tree.
The Benefits of Diversifying Your Identity
If 2020 and 2021 have validated anything about my life choices, it’s the benefits I’ve reaped from diversifying my identity
A Love Letter to Myself
It’s about time you prioritized yourself. After 30 years of caretaking and self-sabotating, allow yourself to feel selfish and focus
Adopting an Infinite Mindset
This changed the way I saw life and validated many of my habits. Instead of seeing life as a series
What Does My Authentic Self Look Like?
San Francisco has always been my litmus test for change. While the city stayed relatively the same throughout my life,
Daring to Set Boundaries
What if we took everyone else out of the equation and drew lines around our own wants and needs? What
Befriending My Inner Madwoman
I’ve only started exploring the concept of identifying and reinforcing boundaries with friends and family, especially when someone claims to
Do You Want Fries With That?
I was introduced to McDonald’s in 1997 when my parents made regular trips from Allentown to New York City. (My
One Day More: How Setting Daily Intentions Got Me Through My Divorce
It feels shameful to admit, but 2020 was the best year of my life. The pandemic forced me (well, everyone)
Life on the Other Side of Medication
I remember telling my doctor about our move to Denver, and she optimistically replied, “When you’re all settled in and
The Self-Imposed Stress of Being Superwoman
Already because of COVID-19, my full-time salary is cut by 20% and I’m working 25+ hours of customer support each
How an 8-Year-Old Reminded Me to Fuck Politeness
I’ve been sitting on this blog post draft for several months, and I couldn’t figure out why. It dawned on
Why I Wish I Got Into More Trouble as a Kid
I think to myself, “Maybe if I’d gotten into more trouble as a kid or was punished for stupid little
A Woman Named Midnight
It’s rare that I wake up in the morning and vividly remember the details of my dream, but today it
Why does profanity have to be such a big #$%^ing deal?
After (vaguely) studying several different types of profanity that exist, I believe profanity is EITHER used to put someone down
What Quarantine Is Teaching Me About Myself and My Marriage
As the “current situation” rages on, I’ve had an uncomfortable amount of time to reflect on my life. This abundance
How I (Finally) Discovered Good Sleep
It’s 3am right now. I slept for 4-5 hours and actually tried going back to sleep, but I was so
Embracing My Vacation Style
I have a complicated relationship with the concept of “vacation.” I never went on many as a kid, and I
Mastering Imperfection Through Stand Up Comedy
There comes a time in every 20-something year old’s life where a defining moment slaps them in the face with
Moving Past the Family Criminal
At 8:45am last Thursday, I stopped halfway up the steps to the San Francisco Hall of Justice and peered out
How I Went Viral on YouTube
The idea of putting an “unfinished product” out there on the internet was the most anxiety-inducing thought that crossed my
Treating Life Like a Lab
To this day, about 10 years later, I still regret not learning how to play the snare drum. Technically I